Dobidan: Velvet for Mother's Day

In Mexico Mother's Day is celebrated on the 10th of May. In Finland and Canada it is celebrated on the second Sunday in May. This year the 10th of May happened to fall exactly on the second Sunday. So my first Mother's Day as a mother was a perfect match. The country where I was born, the country where my home address is and the country where I reside in for once agreed on something. And my guess is that all 3 countries were telling mothers to stay home. I did.

I woke up to the sun shining and my son smiling. What more could a mother ask for? Well, this mother had been up watching a TV series called Velvet until 2am, so I asked for a second cup of coffee to wake up properly.

I decided to add some chocolate to my coffee moment to celebrate my accomplishments for the last 8 months. You don't have access to proper Finnish chocolate here, so I had to settle for Swiss chocolate instead. As I had been glued to the TV the night before, I took a much needed shower after my coffee. Half way through the shower, just when I had shampooed my hair and started rinsing it I looked down on the floor and found my son crawling around in the soap with his diaper and t-shirt on. My husband was still sleeping as he takes care of our little energyball during the night. After a somewhat complicated shower session my son was ready for his nap and I got to go up on the roof terrace and enjoy some alone time.

This is normally the time of the day when I work out but this day was special, so I decided to put on a white dress I had bought for our wedding day. I wore it in the evening when I was in the mood to dance the night away. I happened to be wearing it as well on the day I had my miscarriage two years earlier, so I felt it was a good dress to remind me of my fortune to be a mother.

As I was enjoying the view and dreaming about the cold sparkling wine in the fridge, I received a message from my friend in England. She is as well a mother, in fact the mother I celebrated two years ago here in Mexico. She told me not to feel guilty but go ahead and open the sparkling wine and celebrate a bit on my own. So that's what I did.

When you are a mother you learn to seize the day... the hour... the minute...each second. Any alone time you can get, well you grab it. We all know husbands and children wake up eventually. And that's normally the time of the day when things don't necessarily go your way.

We had a lovely day in the sun. Enjoying drinks of our own preference and in the evening I got some cake I had bought the day before. (Only one parent is allowed in the groceries here and I prefer that it's me.) The size of the cake explains pretty much my confidence in Mexican pastry.

There were lots of bigger cheese cakes but I was too scared to waste our money on them. This one was quite okay after I added fresh raspberries, maple syrup and some chocolate. Perfect size as well. We ate it while we dove right back into Velvet. A Spanish drama series about a fashion house in Madrid in the 50's. It's a little too much drama but highly addictive. I personally prefer classy murder mysteries but we needed something to console ourselves with when "El tiempo entre costuras" came to an end.

My first mother's day actually lasted for two days as my husband woke up the next day to a weird gentleman mood and kept on serving me food, wine and what have you while I was mostly glued to the TV.

One of my favorite characters in the TV series is the designer Rául de la Riva, a very handsomely sparkling gay man with a very nice sense of humor. My favorite line of his would go something like this in English.

"We artists we don't commit errors we just change our mind"

Today it's back to working out and we have forbidden each other to open the TV. The workout went well and as for the TV we will see if we are able to keep our word.

My first mother's day was a really nice one despite the lock down and the darn pandemic. I got to enjoy my alone time and my time together with my two sweethearts.